Stone or Tree? A Gentle Emotional Resilience Test

1. When I feel stressed, my first impulse is to clamp down and act like I'm fine.

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Not really Very true

2. In tense moments, I become very focused on control: fixing, planning, optimizing.

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Not really Very true

3. I avoid difficult conversations until I feel perfectly composed.

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4. If I show emotion, a part of me immediately wants to hide it.

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Not really Very true

5. I can notice what I'm feeling without judging myself for having the feeling.

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6. Even when I'm upset, I can stay connected to my values (kindness, honesty, steadiness).

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7. When something hurts, I let myself feel it in small doses instead of going numb.

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8. When I'm under pressure, I can adapt my plan without feeling like everything is falling apart.

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9. After a hard day, my system comes down fairly quickly (I can sleep, eat, and return to normal).

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10. Small stressors often linger in me for hours (or the whole day).

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11. I tend to replay stressful moments in my head long after they are over.

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12. When I make a mistake, my inner voice stays respectful.

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13. When I struggle, I treat myself the way I would treat a close friend.

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14. I allow myself to ask for support before I'm at my limit.

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15. If I cry, shake, or feel overwhelmed, I interpret it as weakness.

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Not really Very true